Do y'all remember the movie Trolls?
It’s such an amazing movie in it's message about happiness and we watch as the Bergens, creatures who are constantly miserable, have it in their minds that true happiness only comes one day of the year when they get to eat a Troll. We call the movie “cute” or “childish” but the reality is, way too many of us build our happiness just like the Bergens, on something outside of us.
We live our lives, looking for happiness as though it exists outside of us, as if it’s “out there”. Then we unconsciously train ourselves to believe this to be true so we are always on the hunt, chasing something, looking elsewhere, jonsin’ for something that’s ultimately not even attainable. Given enough time and with enough conscious thought, we begin to recognize that happiness, even if captured via accomplishment, acquisition, perception, etc., doesn’t stay for very long, which only fuels the addiction and leaves us ultimately feeling more out of control and less happy than before.
“You’re unhappy because you’re not in alignment with who you are. Not because of what anyone else is doing." Maryann Hassna
Happiness doesn’t come from “out there”.
So if that's true, where does happiness come from then?
Here’s a new thought to consider: The key to happiness is STAYING OPEN.
Look at it this way, when was the last time you remember being really, truly happy??
What were you doing? Who were you with? What was the actual experience? Take yourself back there.Be the fly on the wall and look at what’s going on around you but even more so, what was going on within you!??! What do you notice?
It’s likely that what created that happiness had nothing to do with stuff or more or accomplishment or accolades. Your happiness came from fully experiencing a moment! Well, how do you do that?
Happiness is about staying open!
Staying Open =
Having no expectations.
Living in the moment.
Giving with no preconceived notion of receiving.
Have no attachments, no judgments.
Not living in the past or the future, it’s just sheer appreciation for the moment.
That, my friend, is called LIVING OPEN.
And that is where happiness comes from. Happiness is not “out there”. It’s IN YOU. Challenge yourself today to be exactly where you are, in every moment of everyday. Seek these precious moments and sit in them, finding happiness in all of it, no matter how “good” or “bad” it may be on paper, stay open.It’s a practice and sure, sometimes staying open isn’t easy, but it’s worth it.